Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Chill Time



"Chill out, whatcha yellin' for,
Lay back, it's all been done before
And if you could only let it be ..."


That's Avril Lavigne goin' out to all you cool cats taking naps in your cars on your lunch hour, setting up new homes or working 5 days instead of your usual 4. She's telling you to keep your life un- complicated. It's summer time; the livin' should be easy baby.

Chill out.

That's what the Bon's are gonna do. We're heading south to Ashland to take in some plays and some of those super-hot, triple- digit rays (and those fabulous gin lemonades they serve at Beezey's Back Porch Barbeque). Except for one. The eldest Bon-let is staying up here in the cool north to be an All Star, he's got to:

"get his game on and go play...."

... baseball tournament. Keep an eye on him for me, won't you?

Catch you on the flip side, daddy-o's!

Sunday, June 4, 2006

And Now A Word From Hillary

No, not the senator. My niece.

Of all the roles I have in life, being an auntie is just about the best. Maybe it's because I've been one for 35 years. Or maybe it's because my nieces and nephews are, got to say it, the bomb. Not only are they cute, charming and witty, they're smarties too!

Although I could write lengthy posts touting the the talent and accomplishments of each and every one of the eleven darlings, today is about Hillary; or Hill, as I like to call her.

She's just been accepted to Chapman University and will start there this fall after spending most of her summer traveling in Europe. She wrote a teriffic essay for her application to Chapman that is a spot on commentary of the pressure we place upon today's students.

So with out further delay, please enjoy today's guest:


The Game of College Admissions:
GO DIRECTLY TO COLLEGE, DO NOT PASS GO, DO NOT COLLECT $200.

In a world where the college admissions process is a game, knowing the ins and outs of the rules may just be your "get out of jail free" card. In Monopoly, there are three ways to get out of jail: You can choose to take a chance and try to roll doubles, use a "get out of jail free" card, or throw money at the right people.

The same rules apply in the game of college admissions first option of taking a chance on your true personality and ability is often disregarded, as more and more people seem to be taking the other two options. While hoping that who you really are should be enough to stand up against the competition, it is unfortunately idealistic and naïve, and does not tend to be the reality.

These days, even the best of actions comes with enlightened self-interest. Rather than act with intentions of doing good for the sake of doing good, people think of the resume benefits or the potential college essay that they can churn out, milking the situation to show how they alone can save the world.

In order to write a typically good college essay, you are forced to have a passion and exploit it. By age fifteen you must have overcome a major personal obstacle, and by age seventeen you should have discovered a miracle cure to some debilitating disease. By the time you are a senior in high school, you should be a candidate for a Nobel prize and have attempted to single-handedly save a suffering village in a third world country, and in your spare time, take classes at the local colleges while still maintaining a GPA of 4.0 or higher.

The college application process is nothing but a game where students are forced to jump through hoops in order to show their "qualifications". Just as in the game of Monopoly, the "get out of jail free" card can be bought and sold. Students are advised about which aspects of their profile need to be bulked up. Don't have enough service or activities? Find an organization, any organization to participate in, or join in the first school club you come across, regardless of your interest and investment in it! Need to improve those SAT scores? Pay hundreds of dollars for a tutor or prep class to train you months in advance! Need a good recommendation? Pay a private admissions counselor to write one for you! Really want to attend an Ivy League but don't have the grades? Buy the school a new wing, and you're in!

In this way, the student's profile is easily bought if you've got enough money to throw around.The college admissions process has successfully destroyed the integrity of our educational system. The goal of high school is no longer to learn, but to get good grades, by any means. Going to a college preparatory school, you learn quickly that no one cares how hard you work, or how much you know, all they care about is the grade that you get. Cheating on everyday assignments is a means to an end that has become socially acceptable among many students. We have lost the value of hard work because the emphasis is no longer placed on process, but simply on result. Do whatever you can to get that A.

Surviving high school in one piece is an amazing feat in itself. Since it has been decided that no one cares about the agony you go through in order to achieve, often times, the immense amount of academic pressure pushes students into unhealthy situations. Staying up late and pulling all-nighters occurs on a nightly basis, and caffeine is typically the teen drug of choice. In some cases, students may even turn to more serious and illegal drugs like speed or ADD medication in order to keep up with the high paced expectation. Mental and physical health is put on the back burner while rigorous coursework push you into a stumbling stupor. Education-induced emotional breakdowns caused by pressure and extreme stress become an acceptable normality.

More and more teens are losing the so-called "best years of their lives" to their college ambitions. These personal sacrifices, however great they may be, seem to be worth the long-term benefits of getting into the right college and ensuring a bright future.

In the end, each student applying to college is faced with the three Monopoly-esque choices. You can attempt to gain a "get out of jail free" card by cheating your way to an A and giving your resume some extra padding, despite your investment in the added activities. You can throw money at the right people, and drop the right names, almost guaranteeing admittance, despite your true qualifications.

Or you can choose to roll the dice and take the chance that maybe your hard and honest work will get you somewhere, proving that you don't need to cheat in order to win.

Saturday, June 3, 2006

What a Concept

This ad was too much to overlook.
When you click on the Finola Hackett link below, you might see it pop up too.

You too, have a chance to win a mother daughter makeover!
What can this mean? As you know, Dear Reader, I am definitely down with logging some serious spa time; and with my mom and daughter if need be. I'm all for the mani's and pedi's, the massages, the hair color ... well gee, I don't think there is a spa treatment I don't like. So when I see an ad for some free services, I might be just a little tempted to take a peek. Perhaps it was my mood at the time, but the wording of linked ad hit me the wrong way and struck me as flat out odd! I read it like this:

"Not satisfied with your mom or daughter?
Here' s your chance!
Click here and our experts will make her right over.
Got flaws? We'll fix 'em!"

Sorry mom, sorry little Bon-let. I ain't clickin'.
I like you both just the way you are!
Hope you feel the same.

Friday, June 2, 2006

E-x-c-e-l--l-e-n-t


I hope you and 30 million other people tuned in to ABC last night to watch the Scripps National Spelling Bee.

I hope millions of people flock to Blockbuster today with the intention of renting Spellbound and The Bee Season only to find out that millions of other people got there first and took those very movies home already.

I hope millions of other people wake up this morning, march straight to their Netflix account and load these two movies into their queue.

I hope spotlighting a kid's intelligence becomes a mainstream trend.

The spelling bee was unlike anything I've ever seen on the television and I hope to see more.
The thirteen teenagers who'd made it to last night's final rounds, although under tremendous pressure, were impressively self-composed, confident and demonstrated maturity beyond their years.

Not to mention humble. As a mother who goes a little bonkers when her boy hits the ball out of the ballpark, I couldn't help but notice how both parent and child took the spelling of such words as tmesis, hukilau and dasyphyllous in stride, as if it were no big deal. Spelling ursprache is the baseball equivalent to hitting a grand slam. Believe me, when my kid accomplishes that feat, you'll be hearing me scream and shout all the way to your neighborhood. Without the benefit of broadcast on national television.

By the way, do you even know what these words mean? I know I they've never been uttered in conversations with my friends and family. And that was the impressive part. These kids probably hadn't heard or seen many of these words before either, but because they have been spending their spare time studying word origin and all the wacky rules that one must consider in such endeavors, Kerry Close, Finola Hackett and their fellow competitors could rely upon their knowledge and spell just about anything.

Don't get me wrong. I am a sports fan who can't log enough time on the bleachers watching my kids participate in gymnastics, baseball or soccer. I am tremendously proud of them. You know that.

But really, our society is out of balance when it comes to priorities. I doubt the network big wigs thought twice about broadcasting the Little League World Series. Can you imagine the conversations and lobbying that went on in the boardroom at ABC when they were considering whether or not to broadcast the spelling bee? In prime time no less!

Congratulations to ABC for making the courageous decision to give Americans the opportunity to cheer on some big- time -smarty adolescents as they went head to head (or should I say mind to mind?) in an intellectual kind of sport. What a refreshing change of pace.

And congratulations to Kerry Close, who in her fifth appearance at the Scripps National Spelling Bee, took home the big trophy and well over twenty thousand in cash and prizes. You go girl, you "stellar speller," you!